Is the Easter bunny real or fake? You’re leaving for your family Easter lunch, trying to make sure all children are wearing shoes and socks. Then you’re hit with the dreaded question, “Dad, is the Easter bunny real?”.
For many families, Easter traditions bring a special kind of magic for both children and adults. Like Santa and the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny represents the pure innocence and fun of childhood. With a dash of imagination, and plenty of beautifully wrapped chocolate, what could go wrong?
Well, unfortunately, the truth may be what goes wrong, leading to tears for disappointed children.
Thankfully, there are ways to manage this situation gracefully and even use it as a learning opportunity.
Family traditions and Easter
Some families organise Easter egg hunts in the backyard or park for children to find eggs the Easter bunny leaves behind. Some families create magic through shared games, gifts and delicious food, without telling white lies about the Easter bunny.
However, whatever holiday traditions you follow in your family, children often hear about the Easter bunny at school.
So even if you don’t welcome the Easter bunny into your family, you may still be faced with the dreaded question.
Part of a rich storytelling tradition
Storytelling has played a rich part in our human history and evolution. When we tell stories to children, we teach them about about social norms – the rules and expectations society expects of us all.
Santa and the tooth fairy teach children about socially desirable behaviour – behave well and you’ll be rewarded. The Easter bunny teaches children about celebration and showing appreciation through giving gifts.
Children are usually very good at separating the unreal from the real. Depending on the circumstances, this can even be as young as three years old.
The strength of children’s beliefs is directly related to the amount of supporting “evidence” they’ve experienced over the years.
Beliefs about cultural figures, such as the Easter bunny and Santa, are often stronger than beliefs about fictional television or book characters (such as SpongeBob SquarePants or Frozen’s Elsa). That’s because rituals for Easter and Christmas are so widespread and are reinforced in western society.
Children’s beliefs are often stronger in families where parents provide more detail about the story or ritual, or if parents go the extra mile in providing evidence by putting out carrots for the Easter bunny, or milk and cookies for Santa.
It’s a time to celebrate
There’s some loss for kids in finding out the truth, but there’s also a gain.
The process of children finding out the truth can be a really important learning experience for your child. Asking questions (about the Easter bunny or other tricky matters) develops their critical thinking skills, important milestones in child development.
However awkward you may feel, such critical thinking should be celebrated and supported.
So, what shall I say?
You’ll be relieved to know you can handle the question, “Is the Easter bunny real?” without ruining the magic and ritual of Easter.
If your child is questioning and unsure
To support your child, you can relax, listen carefully and be guided by your child. Aim to answer questions in a simple, straightforward way. But remember, you don’t need to give the answer straight away.
You might say: “Hmm, can you tell me why you think the Easter bunny might not be real?”
When children learn their parents will always listen to them, take them seriously, and answer their questions as best they can, this will strengthen their bond by building trust.
If your child has heard other kids asking
Some kids may be asking about the Easter bunny because they’ve heard other kids asking the question, but make it clear to you in other ways they still want to believe.
You might say: “Even though other kids are asking about it, it sounds like you still believe in the Easter bunny? Should we see what happens this year?”.
If your child is sad about the truth
For most kids, finding out the truth is a positive experience. But some may feel really sad and upset when they find out. For these kids, it will help if parents acknowledge and validate their feelings.
You might say: “I know it feels so sad and disappointing to find out the Easter bunny isn’t real.”
Celebrate the moment
Parents can also talk about how it’s such a big important milestone for kids to be ready for the truth.
You might say: “All kids hear the story about the Easter bunny, and when they figure out it’s not real, it’s a really special moment. It shows how much you’ve grown and how clever you are at working things out on your own. I think we should celebrate!”
Parents might also want to turn the occasion into a positive coming-of-age tradition, where they learn Easter is about family togetherness and celebration.
You might tell your child: “Even though there’s no actual Easter bunny, the magic of Easter is really about doing all the fun things together with our family and friends, and showing each other we love them by giving chocolate gifts.”
Kids like to feel involved, so you could ask: “What would you like to keep doing each year to keep the magic of Easter alive?”
When are kids ready to hear the answer?
In advising parents, my usual rule of thumb is, if a child is asking a question, they’re ready to hear the answer. This goes for all topics, including painful or embarrassing ones.
But kids communicate in a number of ways, so take your lead from your child.
Every child is different, and although all kids pass through broad developmental stages, some kids may want to hold onto beliefs about the Easter bunny and Santa for longer.
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